lifehack: when you see a Take One candy bowl in a restaurant, wait until noones looking and shovel candy into your pockets. god may judge you but his sins outnumber your own
Something ironic that I’ve noticed from being in both autistic mom groups and NT mom groups. Let’s pretend a child cries every time they have to be buckled in the car seat..
NT mom group: “tell them to deal with it, it’s for their safety” “ignore the outbursts, they’ll get used to it” “maybe the straps are too tight? If not, and nothing seems to be wrong with the seat, let them cry it out, safety is most important.” “Sometimes, you just gotta deal with it, hugs mama, sorry this is happening.”
Autistic mom group: “is your child verbal enough to express or show why they’re in distress?” “is the fabric of the car seat scratchy?” “Are the windows tinted? If not the sun may hurt.” “Maybe he wants someone to hold his hand, can you reach back and hold it maybe? anxiety is a real bitch” “transitions can be hard, especially on little humans, maybe give advance notice that you will be leaving in the car at x time?” “Obviously something has him distressed, does he have a toy he’s attached too and can hold?”
And they say autistics do not experience empathy.
This is extremely fucking true. Our friends are always marveling at how attentive we are to what our toddler is trying to communicate. I’m like… that’s… how you communicate with someone who you don’t share enough language with… that’s how you communicate with someone who’s ~~“”“"nonverbal”“”“”“~~~
the intersection of ageism and ableism is awful, and it really shows up squared in the way that abled adults just assume that there’s no way to communicate with neurodiverse kids. and babies, tbh, who they think of in a similar way.
TechCrunch’s Josh Constine reports
that Facebook is launching a fan subscription service á la Patreon, but
unlike Patreon’s 5% cut of the tip jar, Facebook plans to take away
30%.
